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How Mrs Enchanting World Changed my Story

Mrs Dorset - Maria Parker - Harris attributes pageant journey to helping her overcome long-term infertility. Bournemouth charity supporter Maria Parker-Harris will be representing Dorset at the Mrs Enchanting World Pageant on Saturday 10th March 2018 in South Wales. The pageant features representatives from across the globe and finalists were selected from hundreds of entries. Mrs Enchanting World focuses on a contestant's contribution to their community, their charitable endeavours and their dedication to a cause they wish to champion. Maria has chosen to campaign for better understanding of long-term infertility, a debilitating condition that has caused Maria and her husband great personal sadness.
According to the NHS, long-term infertility affects 1 in 7 couples, which is around 3.5million couples each year. Fertility Network UK states that around 90% of couples facing long-term infertility have experienced depression, 70% have reported strain on their relationships and 42% have…

Running

I am just going to say it - I hate running! I suck at it and I am a breathless mess whenever I attempt it. I wouldn't even run for the bus in 2016. Running however is a great and social way to get fit so I thought it worth a go. I had been challenged to lose 10% of my body weight by my fertility Dr and I was not going to let weight come between me and my dream of being a mother, Gone are the days of having to motivate yourself to run alone in the dark for no purpose other than fitness. There has been a real rise in charitable running events in the UK and they are great for getting you off your backside with the promise of a medal and the feeling of doing something worthwhile. I gave a 5K along Bournemouth Beach a go and found myself hooked.  I would love to say the the more events I entered the faster or further I ran, but I would be lying. I did however discover a love of making friends, experiencing the outdoors and running in intervals. I enjoy the ache after a good race that s…

Ashtanga Yoga

When you think of yoga you think of ommm sounds and deep breathing, mythical 'yoga' bodies and gentle movement that couldn't possibly lead to a svelte and toned physique right? Wrong! It turns out there is a yoga for everyone and mine is Ashtanga. How would I describe Ashtanga to those that are new to yoga? I would say it is strong, sweaty, challenging and intense. The opposite of what I expected to experience when I turned up clueless with my mat. If you had told me I would have to jump into plank repeatedly and use my upper body to not only balance but also hover off of the ground, I would have laughed at you! Fast forward a few months and I was truly a convert. I was even bringing people to class with me and voluntarily dragging my ass to class on a beach at the weekend. I would take my mat on holiday and found myself soaking up the sun with a sun salutation rather than a sangria. Quite the transformation! I found I started class full of negativity and tiredness and I wo…

Boxing

Anyone that knows me, knows that I am a bit of a glamour puss. After years of dance training, I am as comfortable in ballet tights as I am in pyjamas. One thing no one ever saw me doing was boxing, least of all me. I always thought of boxing as aggressive, violent and unintelligent. Until I met my husband that is. Well how wrong was I! It was with great resistance that I started to learn about a world that was as important to him as dancing was to me.  He tried for years to persuade me to give it a go, but watching a match was about my limit. Until infertility struck that is. Suddenly I was full of anger and frustration with no positive outlet. Now this is the beauty of boxing according to my wise husband. It turns out boxing is skilled, strategic and controlled, which suits my type A personality perfectly. It also gave me an hour slot each week to just LET IT GO. I stopped taking my infertility out on myself and took it out on the punch bag, feeling the power in each of my jabs grow w…

Hiking

Growing up, I was never a big fan of hiking, especially routes with steep inclines! I managed to complete the Duke of Edinburgh Bronze and Silver awards, but remember crying in my tent at the prospect of having to climb one of the Brecons the next morning. Fast forward nearly ten years and I have found a real passion for walking. Perhaps it is a new found appreciation for a good view, perhaps giving up smoking has made hiking more pleasant. It could even be my new found love of a physical challenge, but what hiking has taught me more than anything else is that I am strong and with the right determination, can achieve amazing things. 
My walking journey started in January 2017, I had just signed up for the full-marathon Moonwalk had some serious training to do. I had until May to train my body to walk 26.2 miles, aiming for 15 minute miles, which was no mean feat for a novice. I have a historic fear/ hatred of walking alone and with bi-nightly 4-mile walks home from the office, I simply …

The truth about Infertility

My fertility journey has been a very downward journey thus far, with each month of disappointment finding a little more faith lost and my heart a lot more broken. When finally in August I felt like I had hit my breaking point. At this time we were still facing our struggle alone and shrouded in secrecy, which in hindsight was a big mistake.
In our naive view we were keeping the fact we were trying to build a family a secret, so that our eventual happy news would be a bigger surprise. Now for 90% of couples this is totally true and it must be wonderful to see the excitement on the faces of your loved ones. I hope to experience this one day......
However for the 10% of us that struggle, the longer the process drags on, the more of yourself you lose, the duller your sparkle becomes and you become a bitter shadow of your former self. Your loved ones can't understand why you are so distant and not up for a party anymore.
By holding onto our secret for too long, what we did was magnify t…